No Compromise - Blogging with Conviction
Saturday, March 25th, 2006Several years ago I was filling out a question on an employment profile for a job I was applying for. There was one question that stands out in my memory. It asked to complete this statement:
“The last time I changed one of my basic beliefs was…”
People who know me, know that I have a tendency to be extremely stubborn when it comes to convincing me to change my mind about anything let alone one of my basic beliefs. I have always considered this to be a strength of my personality, so to complete the sentence I wrote,
“The last time I changed one of my basic beliefs was when I knew that I was going to be a father. I made a conscious decision to take a firm stand on beliefs that I would otherwise have been passive or timid about. I want my son to see his father as a man with a strong set of beliefs.”
Looking back at my answer now, it seems kind of funny that I said that the last time one of my beliefs changed was when my beliefs became stronger. It is kind of like the trick interview question where they ask you to name one of your weaknesses. You always feel like you are dodging the question when you answer, “I am too much of a perfectionist.” The truth is our weaknesses are all too real, and our beliefs aren’t as firm as we like to tell ourselves.
The reason I have been thinking about this lately has to do with blogging. The audience for my other two blogs has really exploded and that comes with the exhausting side effect of having to be willing to backup everything you say. I say “exhausting” because knowing there will be opposition to your statement makes you think twice before you publish something. You have to ask yourself if it is worth the effort? I think that is part of the reason there are so many blogs that would rather just give you a link rather than commit to making a personal statement about it. That is where conviction comes in.
It really doesn’t matter what you say, somebody will disagree with you. This came as a surprise to me, because I came into blogging with the naive belief that a well written essay could change the minds of people who would disagree. Sadly, this is rarely the case. I think most people are as unwilling to change a basic belief as I am. People rarely change and that can be seen in most blog comments. Usually only one of two things happen. Either an argument arises that can’t be settled, or a compromise is made and both people half-heartedly accept a watered down middle ground. It might seem like the second scenario is preferred, but I would argue that this is the more dangerous scenario because it involves someone changing a basic belief. That person’s belief is now closer to what they recently strongly opposed. “Peacemaker” commenters see that as a victory, but the reality is that they have helped to create a place where there isn’t anything left to believe in. To be honest, I find the “peacemaker” commenters more annoying than the person I am disagreeing with. I can respect a person who believes strongly enough to disagree with me. The people that want to find a middle ground where everyone can “just get along” are unwittingly creating an atmosphere of complacency, antipathy, relativity, and mediocrity. In other words, a place where the only people who aren’t welcome are the people with conviction. That is extremely dangerous especially when you consider that one of the common traits of great people in history is conviction. Jesus, Marin Luther King, Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, the list is endless.
So here is my request of the blogosphere:
If you disagree with me, don’t be afraid to say so. Let’s be respectful, but don’t think less of me when you don’t change my mind. If you are the “peacemaker” type, be considerate of the conviction of the people on both sides of the argument. Don’t be afraid to pick a side in a disagreement and stand behind your decision. Blog with conviction and never compromise your beliefs!
